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Healing After Pregnancy Loss

Frist of all, if you have ever lost a baby we are so sorry for your loss. Experiencing a miscarriage is an incredibly painful and personal journey. The grief, confusion, and emotional turmoil can be overwhelming; and that is on top of the hormonal drop that occurs postpartum. At Cactus Bloom Counseling we aim to provide compassionate care to help you or someone you love navigate the aftermath of a pregnancy loss.


Grief of a miscarriage.
October 15th is pregnancy and infant loss awareness day.

Allow Yourself to Grieve: Grief is a natural response to loss, and it's important to give yourself permission to feel the full range of emotions that come with it. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and everyone’s journey is unique. Allow yourself to cry, be angry, or feel numb. These feelings are all part of the healing process. The best way to heal is to allow yourself to go through the emotions that come with grief and loss.


Seek Support: Talking about your loss with trusted friends, family, or a support group can be incredibly healing. Sharing your experience can lessen feelings of isolation and provide comfort. If you don’t feel ready to talk, that’s okay too. Writing in a journal or expressing your emotions through art can also be therapeutic. There are many support groups online or in person in Arizona. At CBC we can offer referrals and recommendations for support groups.


Communicate with Your Partner: If you have a partner, remember that they are grieving too, and their way of processing the loss might differ from yours. Open and honest communication is key. Share your feelings and listen to theirs without judgment. Supporting each other can strengthen your bond during this difficult time. Often, men and women grieve differently. Try to be non-judgmental towards how your partner is processing their grief as this journey is a unique experience. Being there is the most important thing while a spouse is grieving.


Seek Counseling: A licensed therapist specializing in grief and loss can provide valuable support and coping strategies. Therapy can offer a safe space to explore your emotions, navigate your grief, and work through any feelings of guilt or self-blame. Don't hesitate to reach out to CBC to book a session. We often use EMDR to help with healing after pregnancy loss as this often settles on women as trauma and fear during future pregnancies.


Take Care of Your Physical Health: Grief can take a toll on your physical health. Make sure to eat nourishing meals, stay hydrated, and get enough rest. Gentle exercise, such as walking or stretching can help relieve stress and improve your mood. Pay attention to your body’s needs and avoid pushing yourself too hard.


Honor Your Loss: Finding a way to honor and remember your baby can be a meaningful part of the healing process. You might try to write your baby a letter. You might create a memory box, plant a tree, or hold a small ceremony. These acts of remembrance can provide comfort and a sense of connection to your lost baby. Etsy is a resource that can help you find a trinket or memorial to help celebrate the life that was lost.


Educate Yourself: Understanding more about miscarriage can help alleviate some of the confusion and self-blame. Talk to your healthcare provider about why miscarriages happen and ask any questions you might have. Knowledge can empower you and help you feel more in control of your experience. Some OB's offer genetic testing that can help you to find answers to your loss. This can be reassuring or help take steps that prevent future losses.


Set Boundaries: Well-meaning friends and family might offer advice or make comments that are unintentionally hurtful. It's okay to set boundaries and let people know what you need, whether it’s space, silence, or specific kinds of support. Protecting your emotional well-being is crucial.


Be Patient with Yourself: Healing from a pregnancy loss takes time, and there is no set timeline for grief. Be patient with yourself and acknowledge that it’s okay to have good days and bad days. Allow yourself to heal at your own pace and avoid comparing your journey to others.


Find Hope: While it may be hard to see initially, there can be hope and joy in your future. Focus on small moments of happiness and allow yourself to experience them without guilt. Over time, you will find a new normal and ways to incorporate this experience into your life in a healthy manner.


For those that have a loved one or friend that has experienced a loss, the best thing you can do is say "I am sorry for your loss" and give them the space to talk about it should they need it. This is no time for unsolicited advice or hurtful comments. Comments such as "It was meant to be" or " You can always try again" can often feel dismissive of the life that ended too soon and the pain that comes with the grief.


Navigating the aftermath of a miscarriage is a deeply personal and often painful journey. By allowing yourself to grieve, seeking support, and taking care of your emotional and physical health, you can find a path to healing. Remember, it’s important to be gentle with yourself and to seek professional help if needed. You are not alone in this journey, and with time and support, you will find a way to move forward. If you are struggling with the loss of your pregnancy whether that was recent or decades ago, you are not alone. Reach out to Cactus Bloom Counseling and we will support you in your grief and help you find hope after your loss.

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